Thursday, August 22, 2013

Invisible Beauty part 2


Discovered

“Wake up, sleeping beauty. I have no prince here to wake you with a kiss.” I fell asleep while she was working on my room. Whoa! Is this still my room? It looks so so…
            “Clean.”
            “Yep, I cleaned it up for you. All your clothes are put away nicely. I also found this locket under a pile of your clothes. It’s so pretty, why don’t you wear it?” That stupid locket. I hate it.
            “Gold really isn’t my color.” Actually, the stupid locket is a joke and I hate wearing because my grandmother gave it to me.
            “Can I put it on?”
            “Please be my guest.” I’d give it to you if I could. In fact, how about you see how beautiful you are really deep in your soul.
            “Wow! It’s so beautiful! You’re so luck to have something as beautiful as this!” She’s spinning around as if she was wearing a dress. It’s only a freakin necklace. But then what if she actually is an orphan and doesn’t have nice things like this.
            “You should open it.” I wonder what she’ll see in the mirror. I hope it doesn’t make her cry.
            “Are you sure I should open it?” Why does she think something is going to pop out and scare her?
            “Yes, I’m sure.” Look at her open it slowly as if her touch can make it fall apart.
            “Wow! Who is that beautiful picture of in your locket? Is it your mom?”
            “What are you talking about? It’s a mirror!” My first response is to grab it out of her hands. “I just see myself in it.”
            “I don’t look like that in normal mirrors. Are you joking with me?”
            “I swear on my life this locket is a mirror. It is a mirror that shows what you truly look like in your soul. Can I look at it while you do?”
            “I don’t know. I’m slightly creep-ed out by your mirror locket.”
            “Please, I want to see how beautiful your soul is.”
            “Can’t you already tell that without looking at the mirror with me?” What is she talking about? She’s just as weird as my grandmother.
            “No I don’t think so.”
            “Oh.” Now she has a sad face on. What is her problem? What did I say wrong? Why am I always the bad guy?
            “You know for my birthday, I’m gonna give you my locket. I think it looks better on you and apparently you know how it works better than I do. So please take it.” I handed her the stupid torturous necklace because I never want to see it again. Knowing her, she’ll hide it in her shirt when she wears it.
            “Okay, I’ll take care of it until you understand it better. But I won’t keep it.” Ugh! Why can’t you just keep it?! You annoy me so much I don’t even know why we are friends.
            “Sounds good.” What a lie.
            “Ladies, it is time for supper.” Ew, Grandmother’s voice gives me the creeps. I really do believe she is an old hag, but only I’m allowed to call her that. Wow, walking down these stairs as slow as Dalila is a work out. I usually just fly down faster than Grandmother can say food. Ugh, step by step, inch by inch. I’m gonna grow old walking down these steps. Finally, the main floor!
            “Well done, you got down the stairs in less than a half an hour.” Opps did I say that out loud.
            “What?” Good she didn’t understand or hear me.
            “Nothing just making a joke. The kitchen slash dinning room is this way.” Few, that was a close one. She probably would have cried.
            “This house is so big! I’d be embarrassed to invite you over my house.” Ha, invite me over her house. Grandmother would never let me go anywhere.
            “Dalila, I’m so glad you could come here.” Is Grandmother embracing her? She barely touches me when we hold hands to pray, but she is hugging my friend. I think everyone wants me to hate her today. Stupid, Dalila. “You can sit next to me at the table. Ruta, you can sit next to her.” The farther away from you the better you creepy woman. Gosh, you’re almost as creepy as the Principle. You could be related. Or maybe you are related.
            “So I went to the Principle’s three times today. My all time record.” I brag about it as if my grandmother cares. Ha, she hates me. Just look at that face of disappoint and disgust. Those beady little eyes of pure hatred for me. Go ahead Grandmother your hatred only makes me stronger.
            “I know. He called me.” Wow, that’s all you’ve got to say for today. Dalila puts you in a good mood. Usually, I’d be sent to my room cause you wouldn’t want to look at me. “Let us pray.” You’re so religious and you’re a jerk. I never want to serve the god you do. “Gracious God above, thank you for your many blessings. Amen.” Short and sweet just how I like them. No sermon before dinner today. “So Dalila, tell me about yourself. I’ve only heard a little from the Principle when he called to ask if you could come over.” I’m sure he actually talked about her a lot to you and on multiple occasions.
            “Well, Mrs.-”
            “You can call me Grandmother if you’d like.” What the fudge?! Who is this woman and why does my freaky grandmother like her so much? I’m just gonna glare at her now. Of course Dalila is smiling. She probably doesn’t have grandparents.
            “Oh well, Grandmother, I’m a straight A student. I do a lot of volunteer work. I want to be a lawyer, doctor, or maybe the president.”
            “Yes, yes, I know about your school life. Tell me about your parents.” Oh she hit the soft spot. Mean old lady, can’t you give the girl a break.
            “I don’t normally like to talk about my parents. My father is rather mysterious. He prefers I not share who he is. My mother is very kind though, but father tells me not to talk about her either.”
            “You’re father being the principle?” Old hag say, WHAT?! Dalila is related to the principle. No wonder he doesn’t have a last name. He doesn’t want people to know his daughter goes to his school. This is crazy!
            “How did you know?” Look at Dalila’s face. I wish I had a camera. Now she knows how creepy my life is.
            “We have a lot to talk about, Dalila. Ruta, leave us.” Of course I get kicked out. Even on my birthday because it isn’t important to my grandmother either. Whatever, stupid. Why bother even saying something. I’ll just slip away.
            “Bye, Ruta. See you tomorrow I guess.” Guess we won’t say goodbye later.
            “Yeah see ya.” I can hear Grandmother shaking her head. That woman is unbelievable.
            All right so here is what I know. The principle likes me. We are friends now and he tried to comfort me when I cried which is a crazy weird thing that is totally out of character for him. He got Grandmother to say yes to Dalila coming over because it is his daughter, but I thought he said she is an orphan. Maybe she is adopted. Guess it isn’t easy having a creepy Father like the principle. Now why would Grandmother say that part in front of me and not everything else? What else could they be hiding from me? Like seriously, is this just something I have to find out all on my own? Who made the rules to the game of my life? Also, why does the locket mirror make Dalila look beautiful, but I just look the same? I wish I could have seen what she had seen. Darn her insecurities. Why did she think I should see what her soul looks like without the mirror? That is the whole part of the mirror, isn’t it? I feel like I am on a wild goose chase. Maybe they are better at covering their tracks than I thought. Oh gosh, Dalila is in on it. She acts like she’s poor when really she is not. Stupid lying friend I have. My life is all a lie. I bet my mother isn’t dead, but my grandmother faked her death so that she could own me and lock me up. Why is everyone against me anyway? What the heck did I do, but become a victim of tragedy? It isn’t my fault I was born beautiful. Maybe it is better if I’m ugly looking. Who really cares anyways, but me? Who even bothers to see me anyway? What would change if looked as beautiful as I am? There is the mirror. The one I hide from Grandmother if she ever decides to come into my room. Piece by piece, I take off the baggy clothes till I only have my under garments left on. There is my body. It’s perfect. Slowly take out the bun. There is my hair. It’s perfect. I take off the glasses. What would people do if they saw this part of me? Would they still reject me? I’ve never felt so insecure in my own skin. I wish I were never born. Guess I’m sleeping nude tonight. It’s only 7:30, but I don’t do homework and I feel tired and sad anyway. Might as well sleep. I wish I could sleep forever. No more figuring things out. No more being hated by the only person that is related to me. Maybe I’m the orphan. I don’t belong here. I just wish I was-

It's true...Not everyone is going to like you.


 For some people that’s a really hard concept. “Why doesn’t everyone like me? I’m a nice person.” Unfortunately, being nice doesn’t always mean the person will like you. It takes a person 5 seconds to decide whether or not they like a person. Now a days, it’s even easier to deicide in those 5 seconds because we judge people for many different reasons. How they dress, their body shape, their hair color, their ________ fill in the blank. Don’t think you don’t do it. Even I have people in my life that I don’t like and there really isn’t a real reason why. I just don’t like them. I’ve been learning that it’s okay.

Just like its okay for you to not like people, its okay if people don’t like you. You cannot live your life trying to please everyone. That will drive you crazy. Especially when you’re trying to please people you don’t even like. Why don’t you invest your time in loving people you care about?

I’m not giving you permission to be mean to those people that you don’t like or don’t like you. That’s not okay. You still need to be civil with them. Just don’t live around trying to please them. It is really hard to change someone’s 5-second decision on whether they like you. Once they’ve decided, it is set in stone, normally. Everyone is a little different so if you find a person who said they didn’t like you at first, but now they love you; don’t come pointing in my face saying “Ha!” I’m making room for those people who change their minds. The majority of people don’t. If you have a friend that is the minority, good for you.

Sometimes the problem I have with people is trying to control how they feel about me. I want to dictate how someone is supposed to feel about me. Kind of silly and overwhelming, trust me. I’m learning you cannot really change how someone feels about yourself as long as they have set in stone that they like you. Yep, if you didn’t catch that, I try to make people stop liking me. I’ve taken the extreme of wanting everyone to like me to getting no one to like me. It’s never going to work and I know that, but I still randomly want that. I’m not so good with happy mediums. Even when I try to make people not like me, God has placed in me this irresistible abundance of love for people. I cannot be mean to everyone even if my flesh wants me to be. God has taken over my heart and I love people with the love He has given me. So to me, if someone doesn’t like me, I’ll still love them. If someone does like me and I don’t want them to, I’ll still love them. The random stranger who has absolutely no opinion of me, I still love them. Even the people I don’t like, I’ll still love them (I just won’t hang out with them). I’m not bragging just saying. I’m sure other people agree with me. 

God accepts us always. There is no guess whether or not He will want us. It is His will that everyone comes to know Him. God made people with a need to be accepted so that we can run to Him. You will never be turned down by God. Even if you think you’re a horrible person. Because Jesus had His arms stretched out on the cross, God can open His arms wide to accept us.
Not everyone is going to like you, true, but God is always going to want you and like you.

Sunday, August 11, 2013

Back from New Jersey


8/9/13

You may not know this, but I just came back yesterday from a mission trip in New Jersey to help with the clean up from Hurricane Sandy.

Who knew that you could have some major satisfaction from mowing lawns? That’s one job I had to do on this trip. You may think mowing a lawn is no big deal, but for the people who have left there homes do to mold and other bad stuff, it is. If any of their neighbors call and complain about their lawn the town would come and clean it and charge the homeowner like $300. That is a lot of money for people with nothing.

I have been out of my house for 6 months now. That is because there was a fire at my house February 9th. I could kind of relate with some of the people waiting for such a long time to get something done with their homes. I understand the frustration and heartache of not being able to go home. These people have been out of their homes longer than me. Also a lot of them lost everything. My family was blessed that when we do get our home back, we’ll get some of our stuff back too.

So I didn’t just do yard work all week. I also, demolished a shed, moved dirt around, picked up debris and moved it from the ground to a trailer on the back of a truck to a dumpster. I can now say that I have been in a dumpster. (Is that something to be proud of? Cause I am) When I say I, I don’t just mean me. I had a team of 8 other people working with me. My group was made up of: Tim, Alyssa, Tori, Ben, Emily, Grace, Nick, and Meredith (our group leader). We worked hard together.

There are so many things and stories I’d like to share, but I just can’t really put all of it into words. I’m better at telling these stories in person, but I’ll try to explain a few.

So one couple everyone met who came on the mission trip was Pamela and Bob. They stayed in their house during the Hurricane. When we met them we sat on the only thing remaining of their house and garage, the cement in the ground. Yep, they lost everything. They told us the elaborate story of their experience during the hurricane. They could have died. Of course, they were standing right in front of us so we knew they lived. They told us how they watched the waves destroy their house while they stayed on the apartment above their garage. (These people were mad rich). They explained to us all the expensive TVs they had and just all the space they had in their house, but they lost it all. Bob told us that after this experience he had a lot of guilt that he didn’t protect his wife and it almost cost him her life. He’s wife was extremely stubborn that really she chose to stay with him and he couldn’t have made her do anything she didn’t want to. They spent most of the day of the hurricane arguing over what to do. Bob told us that he was never a religious guy. He thought religious guys were dorky and sentimental and he didn’t want to be like that, but because of his guilt he went to talk to Pastor Mark. Pastor Mark is the pastor of Gate Way Church that has about 50 members, but has taken over the long-term recovery of Jersey Shore. So Bob and Pamela start going to Bible studies. While Bob was in his car he told us that it was as clear as day as if God had said it out loud that “God had a plan for putting them through the storm so that He could grab their attention.” That’s when Bob had no more guilt. Him and Pamela got baptized in the same bay that took everything away from them. They gave themselves to God with the same waters God used to get their attention. For me I get goose bumps every time I think about that, say it, or hear it. These two people were amazing. We heard their story Monday night.

People in New Jersey aren’t use to people giving them help. For us to volunteer to serve and help was a big deal to them. So much more works needs to be done, but I’m happy I got to be apart of some of the clean up. It really was an amazing trip. God’s hand was really there with us. I know I was blessed.

Well if you know me and want to know more stories about the mission, just ask. I’ll be glad to write more blog posts about it or talk to you in person, which will be more fun for me!     

Saturday, August 10, 2013

Lost


5/8/13

Lost, lost in the questions, darkness, and pain.
Lost, for the lack of words to explain.

My heart is an over grown forest
With places of darkness I’ve never been.
Creatures that I’ve never seen.
Sections I dare not set foot.
Resources I’ll never use.

I don’t know the full ability of my heart.
I’m not sure what it can do.

The love in my heart gets all used up
Leaving nothing left for me.
Oh how I ache and oh how I hate
This person that is me.

You only see what I let you see
Like  the meadows of my heart.

If I do not know me then
How can you know me?
This is confusing to me.


I get lost in the trees
Tangled in weeds of my not so trimmed heart.

Pull me back to the meadows
Find me where I’m at.
I feel so lost and deserted.
Lost in my shattered broken heart.