For some people
that’s a really hard concept. “Why doesn’t everyone like me? I’m a nice
person.” Unfortunately, being nice doesn’t always mean the person will like
you. It takes a person 5 seconds to decide whether or not they like a person.
Now a days, it’s even easier to deicide in those 5 seconds because we judge
people for many different reasons. How they dress, their body shape, their hair
color, their ________ fill in the blank. Don’t think you don’t do it. Even I
have people in my life that I don’t like and there really isn’t a real reason
why. I just don’t like them. I’ve been learning that it’s okay.
Just like its okay
for you to not like people, its okay if people don’t like you. You cannot live
your life trying to please everyone. That will drive you crazy. Especially when
you’re trying to please people you don’t even like. Why don’t you invest your
time in loving people you care about?
I’m not giving you
permission to be mean to those people that you don’t like or don’t like you.
That’s not okay. You still need to be civil with them. Just don’t live around
trying to please them. It is really hard to change someone’s 5-second decision
on whether they like you. Once they’ve decided, it is set in stone, normally.
Everyone is a little different so if you find a person who said they didn’t
like you at first, but now they love you; don’t come pointing in my face saying
“Ha!” I’m making room for those people who change their minds. The majority of
people don’t. If you have a friend that is the minority, good for you.
Sometimes the
problem I have with people is trying to control how they feel about me. I want
to dictate how someone is supposed to feel about me. Kind of silly and
overwhelming, trust me. I’m learning you cannot really change how someone feels
about yourself as long as they have set in stone that they like you. Yep, if
you didn’t catch that, I try to make people stop liking me. I’ve taken the
extreme of wanting everyone to like me to getting no one to like me. It’s never
going to work and I know that, but I still randomly want that. I’m not so good
with happy mediums. Even when I try to make people not like me, God has placed
in me this irresistible abundance of love for people. I cannot be mean to
everyone even if my flesh wants me to be. God has taken over my heart and I
love people with the love He has given me. So to me, if someone doesn’t like
me, I’ll still love them. If someone does like me and I don’t want them to,
I’ll still love them. The random stranger who has absolutely no opinion of me,
I still love them. Even the people I don’t like, I’ll still love them (I just
won’t hang out with them). I’m not bragging just saying. I’m sure other people
agree with me.
God accepts us
always. There is no guess whether or not He will want us. It is His will that
everyone comes to know Him. God made people with a need to be accepted so that
we can run to Him. You will never be turned down by God. Even if you think
you’re a horrible person. Because Jesus had His arms stretched out on the
cross, God can open His arms wide to accept us.
Not everyone is
going to like you, true, but God is always going to want you and like you.
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