The Science of Human Interaction

Now let me be clear, I am not a scientist. So why I titled this “the science of human interaction” is to be dramatic. Just kidding! My new purpose is to establish myself as a philosopher. Now you probably wonder what philosophy has to do with science. Well, stop your wondering because you are about to be enlightened. Philosophy is the building block of all sciences because philosophers asked questions. When you ask questions, those questions demand answers and then people specialize in specific branches of philosophy aka science. Another thing philosophers do is explain the world in theories so everyone else can reflect on those theories and question whether it is true or false. Wait no further everyone, for here is my theory on the science of human interaction.

I believe there is more to a human being than just their physical bodies. I think humans have souls, spirits, or energy that make up who they are. Hold on because this view is important to my theory. If you disagree with me on this part, you might as well stop reading because you won’t agree with the rest of it. But for those believers of a greater depth to humanity, press on…

Have you ever thought about or reflected on an interaction you had with another person? You go over in your mind what you talked about, how they made you feel, or even what they looked like. What about those interactions over the phone? Do you think about how that person made you feel? Do you like the sound of their voice? Did you want to listen to what they were saying? If you have never reflected on these interactions, try. Next time you see someone or make a phone call think about that interaction. What about that person did you like? What did you dislike? Would you want to see them again or see them at all? It may seem like I am asking you to do a strange thing, but I believe we do this subconsciously.

Think about it. If someone makes you feel happy, you might smile after the interaction. If someone made you upset, you might make a scowl on your face. If someone was boring to be around, you might roll your eyes. Our bodies have a reaction to interactions without us thinking about it. But why don’t we think about these reactions?

Every person has their own soul, spirit, or energy that they bring to an interaction. Some people (extroverts especially) love sharing their energy with everyone and indulging in the energy of people around them. Their energy magnifies the more people they interact with. More than two extroverts in a room can cause an energy explosion. Enter the room with caution, there may be introvert causalities. I know extroverts, but I am no expert. I am only an introvert who knows how to be an extrovert when need be.

My soul, spirit, or energy gets replenished when I spend time alone. I enjoy my time writing in my journal, blogging, listening to music, or making music by myself. But this doesn’t mean I hate all human interaction.

Warning: I’m about to get real science-y. I’m sorry for those who do not like science but hang with me.

Just like there are different wavelengths for colors, I think there are different wavelengths for the amount of energy people give off. Another thing I think is that no wavelength is exactly the same. Every time humans interact these energy wavelengths overlap creating a harmony or discord.   

Think about your best friend. Why do you like them so much? A popular thing people say is “we vibe well together.” But what are they actually saying? Well I think, we are saying our energies work well together. The energies take and give from each other naturally without effort. No one is forcing the other person to stay around because both of you just want to. There is comfort and safety. There is balance and harmony. Best friends can fight, but their energy keeps them tied together.

Now think about someone you can’t stand to be around. They irk you, annoy you, and flat out ruin the mood when they walk in the room. Why? Why does this happen when this person is around? People might say, “We don’t vibe well together. We have different views on life. Their personality is overpowering.” Can you guess what I am going to say about this person? Maybe the reason you don’t get along with this person is because your energies clash. You cannot force harmony. You can be civil, polite and take the higher ground, but you can’t force connection.

Then there are those less fortunate situations where one person truly believes that your energies match, but you feel the complete opposite. It happens a lot, but at the end of the day, you cannot force harmony. True connection happens when both people want to give and take from the energy sources.

If you are on the short end of the stick feeling a connection the other person does not feel, do not take it personally. There are so many people on this planet that you will find someone that harmonizes with naturally. It is not your job to push your way into someone else’s life especially if you are not welcomed. No one should ever be forced into any kind of relationship.

Now if you are the person who does not feel the connection to a person who does, be gracious. There are kind ways to reject people. Read my blogs about it. They are still humans that should be treated with respect. If you are not interested in having them around, the polite thing to do is let them know. Don’t lead them on and don’t just disappear. Treat them how you would want to be treated in that situation. You never know, one day you’ll be on the short end of the stick wishing that person had the courtesy to break it to you easy.

I believe people can change their soul, spirit, or energy. As we enlighten ourselves, our wavelengths can become more accepting of others. As we learn and grow, our energy can change. Sometimes, our energies do match, but it takes us a little longer to truly understand the connection. So maybe you did not get along with a person in the past but find in the future you harmonize well. Anything is possible.  

I think human interaction is beautiful. I often overthink it, and I often get lost in trying to understand it all. We are creatures of community. There is a want for human connection, a harmony. We all need to be gracious to each other in our search for energies that connect. I think there would be less of a disturbance in the world if we just understood the delicacy, the art, the rhythm, and even the science of human interaction.