Asking for Help

I have been learning how important it is to ask for help. I have struggled with this. I always wanted people to just know what I needed or just know I was not okay. I would get very irritated with myself if there were things I didn’t know how to do. I would get myself all worked up.

I’ve experienced a few helpless moments. The times when you realize, there is absolutely nothing you can do to change a situation. It doesn’t matter how loud you yell or quick you act, things are what they are. You try and try and try and try, but nothing happens. The feeling of exhaustion that comes from overworking or juggling too many things.  

Seems grim, but I’ll explain. In the moments of helplessness, admitting you're helpless is the first step to getting help. Just like with any problems we face. If we don’t admit there is a problem, it is never going to be fixed.  

By admitting I need help with things, I have drawn people into my life that help me with the problems I face. I have delegated tasks to people who want to do them or know how to do them.

My house has become a project. I am anticipating the day when it is fully functioning without any problems. I have taken charge of running my house. I am a landlord, a dog mom, a financial analyst, and a homeowner. I’m wearing a lot of hats. There have been a few times when situations with all of those categories felt helpless.

I have given up trying to do everything on my own or get mad at myself because I lack information. Instead, I will seek out people who have skills or do my own research. I know my strengths. I know my weaknesses. I have to allow myself to be helpless and ask for help.

I have an unfinished song with the lyrics: 

“Help me feel helpless
To give up control
Help me feel helpless
To be still and know
That you’re in control of everything in my life
My hands are too small
To carry what I have
So, help me feel helpless
And put it in your hands”

I don’t think humans were meant to do everything on their own. There is power in community. There is power in connection. We all add something. Whether we know what that knowledge is or not, we can impact someone else’s life.

Example: I know a plumber now. I didn’t know one before, but I’m glad I know him because I don’t want to have to learn how to fix pipes. Woot, Woot!

The point is, ask for help. We aren’t meant to ‘do it all.’ Just do what you can and then ask for help. I’m sure there is help out there.