Get More, Spend Less

This doesn’t have anything to do with spending money actually. I just used that because everyone likes to spend less, but get more. What if we expected less out of life, but got more out of it?

This post is about Expectations.

It is amazing how much false expectations can ruin your life. I personally had way too many false expectations for myself. I wanted to be perfect. Talk about a false expectation. Forgiving myself for messing up was impossible. I’d beat myself up about the slightest dumbest things I’d do wrong.

 Example:

I tried making dinner for my family. I didn’t know how to fry the chicken. In my head, I thought, “My family is going to die of salmonella. I can’t do anything right. This was suppose to be a kind thing for my mom and I don’t know how long to cook the chicken for.” I cried. I felt like a complete and total failure over chicken. Why did I expect myself to be a great cook when I’ve never made dinner before? The last time I made that chicken, I did it with a friend and she did the frying. There is no logical reasoning behind getting all worked up over frying chicken. My dad came home and he ended up frying the chicken for me. I couldn’t even appreciate his help because I was sulking over my failure.

That sounds pretty ridiculous, but it actually happened yesterday. Admit it, there are times you have high expectations and when they aren’t met, you crash. You just hate yourself and everyone around you.

I laugh about it now because I see when I’m doing it. Before I thought I had no reason to be sad. Now I know, my reason for being sad was because my false expectations weren’t met. I was the only person letting myself down. I had an over abundance of grace for everyone else, but for me…I got the short end of the stick.

How awful when I’m stuck with myself 24/7, but I can’t even like myself because I can’t meet my perfect standard. Why do we do that to ourselves?

I’ve learned now to give myself grace. I expect to make mistakes. I expect less of myself and when I do more than expected, I’m proud of myself.

I have on going support team inside my head (more about that in another post). No one needs to pat my back. I’m being much kinder to myself and it has made a world of a difference.

I still catch myself making high, impractical expectations, but at least I’m catching myself.

I hope you too can give yourself some grace. Let loose sometimes. Love yourself the way you’d love a best friend. Be kind to yourself. Treat yourself to good things. You are worth it.

Like it or not, you’re stuck with you 24/7 might as well make the most of it.

Low expectations means more wonderful unexpected things!